Saturday, August 15, 2009

break point

People, especially close relatives should know where to draw the line.
Where they (their far from pleasant doings) stop being ignorable and start being positively abhorrent. Where their self centered doings affect the life of their relatives adversely.

And when they don't, there is, I believe, a time for keeping quiet and a time to open one's mouth. While I don't find it pleasant to be rude, its better to have someone else stew (if their thick skin will allow that) than stew myself.

It is unbelievable how self centered some people can get. How much of sponges they can be! How oblivious to all except their pleasure. How uncaring of others' sacrifices.

One of my prayers to God, is that we always have enough to be able to give to relatives needier than us. So that we can give freely without feeling deprived ourselves. But this is to those needier than us. Not to those as well-off or more so than us. A line needs to be drawn, methinks.

How much can one take? and for how long?

Right now, what someone is doing goes against all tenets of decency. It raises my hackles to even think about it.
I just want that person dissasociated from me.
No matter what!
Enough of putting up a facade, or keeping quiet for the sake of a loved person.

This feeling has always been there, sometimes peaking, sometimes lying dormant for the last 9 YEARS! In the last couple of months, happenings have gotten totally out of hand. Matters can only be stretched to a point. After that it has to break. That's what I learnt in Physics!

6 comments:

WhatsInAName said...

hugs dear jlt!
Calm down. I think i can guess who is your tormentor. And i think its better you vent out your feelings to him. Tell him openly as to where he stands. Yes there is a limit to everything. And no need to feel guilty too. You have done your best and its better to back out rather than breakdown

Mama - Mia said...

hugs! and yes, i can imagine who this person could be! we are going thru the same. not because they are leeches, but because we are treated badly for no fault of ours! and for someone like me who takes a looong time to NOT forgive someone, i have come to a breaking point! and i sure hope you find a solution to these never ending troubles!

hugs

abha

How do we know said...

Hey take care.. though i can kind of imagine too (i dont know u personally, just a wild guess) ..

Sumana said...

JLT, Venting out is really good, just cry it out. Talk to the person if that helps. I know how it feels. Have gone thru such stuff myself.

Just Like That said...

WIAN, MamaMia, how do we know, Sumana: Venting has helped before... but now even venting doesn't seem to help. By month end, if things are status quo, then I will intervene and then matters will never be the same again, for a lot of people. Sigh!
I hate to be in this messy situation- but i'm damned if I'm going to let him get away with any more!!!!

Suma said...

that's the whole point..you go along with things hoping for teh best and that never happens..i've seen it happen with someone close...things will not be teh same but atleast you get to lead your life eh way you want to


hugs, hope things work out